A few weeks ago we commented on an article from USA Today about how well-meaning parents coddle their 20-somethings by making it easy for them to wander aimlessly through their twenties while waiting for the ideal career and future to materialize. Now Ruben Navarrette, columnist for the San Diego Union-Tribune, has delivered an even stronger broadside on the topic in his article titled "Young people today get too much help from well-meaning parents", reprinted in The Salt Lake Tribune April 20 2008. Navarrette sums up the problem this way:
Today, many young people have big plans. They're waiting around for the perfect job or the perfect company paying the perfect company paying the perfect salary to fall into their laps just perfectly. Or maybe they don't have any plans. Confronted with a buffet of choices, they're frozen by indecision and can't decide what to sample first. . .
. . . it's hard to be hungry when you spend your time spending buffets. Who knew?
Having worked with countless thousands of college students for decades, the Curmudgeonly Professor has little sympathy for for students who, in one way or another, thought they were so "special" that they did not deserve any grade less than A. Many continue to think they are special and deserve special treatment for the rest of their lives. Maybe kids have been too coddled from the day they were born. There's something to be said for "getting with the program" and tackling life and jobs and having the backbone to be independent. If one job doesn't work out, try another. The same attitude about perfection seems to accompany too many modern marriages where the perfection dreamed about on wedding days costing tens of thousands of dollars goes down the drain when reality of married life sets in so it becomes, all too soon, time to look for another spouse who will not have the faults of the first one and who will bring us true happiness. You can read Navarrette's article here.