As I was reading John Bowe's article in the first of a new series on Salon titled Americans Talk About Love, I couldn't help but think about our own long marriage. Bowe tells the story of Paul Pesce, now 83 with a wife suffering from Alzheimer's and Pesce's adventures through the life of a long marriage. This story is one of the most moving and poignant stories about marriage I have ever read and is worth spending a few moments reading. I predict the message will stay with you for a long, long time. You can go here to read the entire article.
Out of the 56 years we've been married, I've only been away from her for two weeks. I think it has something to do with my generation. Because I think the natural thing for my generation is to stay with it.
I'm not sure that the Bible is anything real about heaven. I think that there is something or somebody, something that created us. I think of as a guy who made, like a little miniature railroad track with a town and a train. And he watches what's happening as it runs. If there is such a thing in the afterlife, I hope I can spend it with her.
I asked my wife the other day if she realized that January day in 1950 when I rang the doorbell to her home to take her on a blind date that she would be spending the rest of her life with me--59 years total, three years courting, 56 years of marriage. Of course, that is a silly question, but it is rather mind boggling and reminds me of Pesce's impulsive proposal for marriage after a chance encounter on a subway train. When I rang her doorbell, I was 17, she was all of 16.