This little book shows the beauty and power of the two words "Thank You" hand written on thank you cards. Not emails, not text messages, not phone calls. But messages actually written by hand on note cards and sent to the recipient. The author, John Kralik, was a struggling attorney with a world of woes and problems when he made the decision to write 365 thank yous during the coming year. The subtitle of the book is "The year a simple act of daily gratitude changed my life." By thanking friends, family, clients, doctors, dentists, people he came in contact with or that helped or crossed his path, he enriched his own life and set in motion a series of events that led to the changes in his life and the lives of the recipients of his thank you messages.
Starting off the year, with a struggling law firm, delinquent bill paying clients, a divorce, living in a substandard apartment, and facing a mountain of woes and misery, Kralik writes: "I would try to find one person to thank each day. One person to whom I would send a thank you note." (p. 17) During the year, he thanked clients for paying their bills. He thanked the Starbucks guy. He thanked people through birthday cards. He kept thanking people through the financial market crash. He kept a spreadsheet with all of his original messages.
Kralik's advice is to keep the messages on point, addressing the action or friendship briefly and explicitly, leaving all extraneous matters aside. He stresses that you should "[replace] all thank you emails with handwritten thank you notes." (p. 215)
The author discovered that recipients of his cards often saved them as keepsakes, placing them in a prominent location where they could serve as a reminder of the wonders of a simple hand-written thank you. Imagine a world in which everyone bothered to tell each other "thank you" in an indelible and permanent way for all of the good that others have done for us, and imagine the effect your cards will have on others as they follow your example.
My wife has long been a thank you card practitioner, sending out our beautiful photo note cards with a short thank you message. This past troubled winter, that included thanks for food brought in, for visits in our home, for visits by telephone, for prayers offered, for rides given to treatments, for gifts. My wife sends a birthday card to each member of our family, which consists of 5 children, 19 grand children, 4 in-law spouses, and 15 great grandchildren. We hear stories about how even the youngest children are excited to get their card with the number of $ for their age. No matter how sick my wife was, she sent me to the mailbox with the card or went to the ATM for the money to send with the card.
We have found that people usually save our photo note cards, framing them and hanging them on the wall or placing them in a frame on the mantel, a reminder of the thought behind the card and of the beauty of the image that enhances the message even more.
I cannot recommend this book strongly enough or the powerful message that it contains. You will never forget Kralik's experience, and, blessedly, if you follow his example, you may find more blessings in your own life than you ever thought possible. I invite your comments and reactions to this wonderful little book.
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