Have you every noticed how many of the negative events and characteristics of our lives are words that begin with the letter "D"? Just consider: Depression. Despair. Discouragement. Disaster. Disillusionmant. Difficulty. Darkness. Doubt. Disgust. Damage. Death. Disappointment. Danger.
Now consider that for every negative characteristic or word a positive word or thought can counterbalance it: For depression, we have sunshine. For despair, we have joy. For discouragement, we have hope. For disaster, we have recovery. For disillusionment, we have faith. For difficulty, we have ease. For doubt, we have certainty. For disgust, we can ignore it. For damage, we can repair. For death, there is life. For disappointment, there is fulfillment. And for danger, there is safety.
Overcoming and conquering the D's in our lives may not be easy and may take some time. I have been a chronic worrier all my life and I can tell you that being a worrier has never solved anything, has never helped me, but has always been a drag on the otherwise more cheerful and constructive life I should have and could have lived. Our problems run from the mundane and trivial to the serious and consequential. Many problems require professional help to resolve and help us vanish them to their rightful obscurity. But for daily help and encouragement here are a few of the watchwords and phrases that have helped me ease the stress of the D's and keep going:
- One of my cardiologist's offices posted a prominent sign: Never, never, never give up.
- Count your blessings. Write them down.
- Prayer. If you are not a frequent prayer, it may be time to put your doubts and concerns aside and become one.
- According to the old tune, "accentuate the positive." Banish negative thoughts and attitudes.
- Read the scriptures. Ponder what you read.
- If you need to, chart a new course and make necessary changes in your life.
- Set long term goals so you don't get sidetracked by all the garbage and detritus that detracts you in your daily life in the short run. Keep your eye on the prize.
- Forgive someone who has been cankering your soul.
- Send out thank you cards and notes to everyone you can think of.
- Remember, "it could be worse" and move on no matter what.
- Smile. You'll be amazed at the power of a smile.
- Be kind to everyone you see and make allowances for the difficulties others are facing.
- Help someone that you know needs your help and that you may have just ignored. Or find someone to help as you go aboutyour daily work and activities.
- Give your wife, husband, dad, mom, grandpa, grandma, aunt, uncle, kids, friends, whoever needs one, a hug.
- Remember the healing power of love.
- Economists tell you to ignore fixed costs, the stuff that happened before that you can't do anything about. Maybe you need to fix some things, but otherwise, for heaven's sake, forget past mistakes that are keeping you burdened down.
- Start a journal. Write down your thoughts, goals, aspirations, ideas, things you need and want to do.
- And now, you're on your own to add to this list. Best of luck and may you use a few simple but powerful steps to overcome the problems you are having with the big D's in your life. The sun will come up, if not tomorrow, soon. You can make it.